Monogamy?

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  1. Richard Channing

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    Is it natural? Do you believe in it? Do you practice it?

    Is it the ideal that all relationships should strive for? A bi-product of being in love.....For as long as you feel like you're in love at least? Or even when you don't?

    Or maybe it's right for some and not for others? Or is it something we impose on each other as a result of deep seated insecurities? Is it something most people pretend to want cause they know acting otherwise could cost them their relationship?


    Where do you stand on monogamy?




    This 20 min doc from Netflix 'Explained' series raises some interesting points.
     
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    Most people seem to see monogamy as being right for their partner, not necessarily for themselves.

    For many people. monogamy (even if it's unfairly unilateral) is a terribly important issue, perhaps the most important.

    Then there's me -- who doesn't care about it at all.

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    Monogamy is the mythic equivalent of Santa Claus for adults.
     
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    No, I don’t practice it because it is not normal for a human to be monogamous.
     
  5. Emelee

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    I think preferring monogamy is a bit like being heterosexual. Most people prefer this, but a certain % of people do not. Who's to say what's right and wrong? In my opinion, no alternative to who you want to spend your life with can be right or wrong.

    I think the reason why most people are in monogamous relationships is that you tend to be in love with only one person at the time. Therefore, you are with that person as long as you love him or her, or as long as you want to live with said person. For some, it lasts a lifetime. For many others, it does not. And I hate the idea that you can't ever end a relationship because of what someone else says is right or wrong. Being forced to stay in an unhappy relationship is just devastating. Who wins?

    As long as it doesn't cause injury to others, who cares how you live your life? Live with 10 other people if you want.
     
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    People should do what makes them happy as long as they are not hurting anyone. If you're in a monogamous relationship then you should respect that as doing otherwise could hurt your partner. If within a relationship both partners are OK with the other person having relations with someone else then that's great too.

    Personally, I wouldn't want to be in an open relationship because I like the idea of having everything you want with one person.
     
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    It is an issue of belief. If one believes that is possible, then good for them.
    I don't think I would ever be able to choose just one friend if someone said "you can't have any others." I am satisfying different emotional/cognitive/experiential needs with each. And that is just for friends. So to limit it so to a partner, who is supposed to give you even more, doesn't work for me. Not that I ever cheated/would cheat on someone, I just never thought one relationship would last forever and ever.
     
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    I believe in monogamy. I just do. That's probably why I have never been in a long term relationship.
     
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    Maybe I'm hopelessly romantic but that's how I see it too.
    I understand that there are many good reasons why people divorce, but based on the idea of simply "falling out of love" then I think some people are taking relationships for granted.
    "I'm bored with this toy, I want a new one".
    You don't say "I'll marry you...for the time being". The commitment shouldn't feel like a punishment, it should feel like a gift.

    There are so many singles who desperately want to have that special relationship, and once they got it they want more. Have their wedding cake and eat it too.
    Greedy, selfish sluts.

    Friends (as in: not partners) is a different situation, I think.
     
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    Sable Colby is that you?
     
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    See, that's why I love soaps. But I wouldn't want any Winger tramp to sleep with my husband.
     
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    Or your sister.
     
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    That seems to be increasingly the case. The culture has changed -- I'm not sure if that's particularly good or bad or both or neither.
     
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    Oh it's bad. I'd like to be in a long term relationship, but not with a slut. I have too much self value for that.
     
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