abuse

[Cassie]

Recently my husband hit my round the face........ he's normaly a really nice guy i swer and i'm sure this was a one off but my 9year old daughter saw it..... it was a one off i'm sure he'll never do it again but my little girl was really worryed... what can i tell her???

[Sarah]

Are you serious?

Because if you are you need to leave him and that is the only example you need to set to your daughter. If you stay with a man who abuses you, she will think it's ok too. Get out. Now. There is no other option, I feel.

[Cassie]

it was a one off honey.... and it was kinda my own fault but she wont leave my side that's all........

[Mayor Gregory]

Tell her daddy swears he'll never do it again
- he knows he was VERY wrong

- I'd be tempted to say if he does it again tell her you both
will be safe, away from him - but this might scare her
that she won't see her dad again.

Either way he is 110% out of line, and did the lowest of the low.
- don't make excuses for him = it was NOT your fault.

[Cassie]

i will do thank you

but really he's a really nice man it was my temper that caused it.

[mztx71]

Nice men DON't hit women! My advice, leave the shit!

Shortly after I separated from my ex he came round and beat me in front of our 8 year old son. Next day, I went to see my lawyer and paid £900 for an injuction! Best £900 I ever spent!

[Sarah]

Sorry and forgive my defensive tone there but I'm not buying this. How can you be SO SURE he won't do it again? Once is too many times!! What if he hits your daughter? And why are you blaming yourself? Even if you provoked him until he was mad with rage he still should not have hit you! With all due respect, the title of your thread is "abuse" and that says a lot to me.

[Bobby's Angel]

Are you serious?

Because if you are you need to leave him and that is the only example you need to set to your daughter. If you stay with a man who abuses you, she will think it's ok too. Get out. Now. There is no other option, I feel.

Completely agree with you Sarah

[SnarkyOracle!]

Just remember: the woman is always right. And All Men are, in contrast, born evil... If you think he's "really nice", it's just Satan trying to confuse you.

There are no "nice men". Even when they don't hit you, they're still rotten.

Also remember, it is ALWAYS wrong for a man to hit a woman. But it's always acceptable and right for a woman to hit anybody--- unless they hit you.

And the only time it's not evil for a man to hit a woman is when she's his daughter, and age 13 and under. And then God demands she be hit, so she wont be spoiled. Ask the bible.

So using this standard, you can't lose!

[Pammy P]

Recently my husband hit my round the face........ he's normaly a really nice guy i swer and i'm sure this was a one off but my 9year old daughter saw it..... it was a one off i'm sure he'll never do it again but my little girl was really worryed... what can i tell her???

Kick the asshole into touch; once a man does that he will always do it.

I always said, if my HUBBY cheated on me; hit me or gave me physical or mental abuse then that would be the end of our marriage ...

No second chances ... only WEAK women stay in these circumstances for the security of what the marriage brings.

I commend women of getting out and getting on with their own lives; security is not everything - peice of mind; happiness and emotions are 1st.

Sorry Cassandra if I sound brutal; but once he done it; he will do again!

Get out and take your daughter tooo.

A relative of mine, got married at 19 they have 1 child and in 1995 after 7 years of marriage; he had an affair with a women, took her on holiday and my relative left him and was about to DIVORCE, the decree absolute was almost rubber-stamped; but he won her round ... and now they have a 7 year old daughter ... that don;t mend a broken marriage. IMO she is an idiot for taking him back; don;t know if she is HAPPY; as don't speak much now.

She is a prime example of WEAK WOMEN; cannot live the life without the man!

[mztx71]

Kick the asshole into touch; once a man does that he will always do it.

I always said, if my HUBBY cheated on me; hit me or gave me physical or mental abuse then that would be the end of our marriage ...

No second chances ... only WEAK women stay in these circumstances for the security of what the marriage brings.

I commend women of getting out and getting on with their own lives; security is not everything - peice of mind; happiness and emotions are 1st.

Sorry Cassandra if I sound brutal; but once he done it; he will do again!

Get out and take your daughter tooo.

Damned right!

[Pammy P]

Damned right!

I commend you Carol for going it alone; you are an inspiration to WOMEN.

I would sooner be single that in a relationship like Cassandra.

But Ladies, don't forget, ALL MEN ARE NOT BAD - there are nice ones; and I hopefully found my Prince!

[Benny JR]

GET OUT NOW! My eldest sister's ex did that to her once and I saw it, she was 25 and he was 23 and she saw me and said not to tell my parents, naturally I did because I know that what he did was completely wrong, it was all over her not being able to go out with him one night and my Dad went balistic! We told the police about this in the end and it turns out he was a nasty piece of work and my sister was not the first woman he ever hit. He even threatened me once when we were in the kitchen alone one night and I nealry fell apart, I mean, this was guy who took me to the cinema with him! Cassandra, GET OUT! NOW!!!!!!!!!!!! This guy is bad news, I take it he is not your Daughter's Father? Either way, leave him now, and tell a close family member or friend about this.

[mztx71]

I commend you Carol for going it alone; you are an inspiration to WOMEN.

I would sooner be single that in a relationship like Cassandra.

But Ladies, don't forget, ALL MEN ARE NOT BAD - there are nice ones; and I hopefully found my Prince!

Awww Thank you!

It's true not all men are bad, I've had a couple of princes in the past but ended up for some reason marrying a frog! But when you do finally see them for the pond life they are, that's when you need to play your get out of jail free card and quick before things escalate. Bullies always like a soft touch!

[SERVALAN]

ok every one i have to be bit honest here my husband is hitting me, he did it tonight but the niegbours saw him because as he hit me it shadowed on the silver blinds as clear as day and they were at they're window and i am disgraced totally!.. he has been doing it a while under pressure of my illness and the other things going on but he has brusied me severly at times kicked and punched me and if i had the strength right now and resources i'd go but i am sick as dog and i fell the other night too and our dog is going blind to boot!!, i think this was the catalist tonight as he issad about it my lip is hangin and bleedin and to top it off i had a forum row here as well so i want to gas my self in the electric oven , you gotta laugh i guess its the only way.i am coping but barely. leave him?... it aint that simple for cassandra or me im afraid!..WE HAVE COMMIMENTS FIANCIALLY, WE HAVE KIDS, I AM STILL TRYING TO GET WELL FROM CANCER AND YES HITTING ME IS NOT HELPING AND MY KIDS HATE IT!! i m keeping it quiet and this is the first time i have told anyone but i guess he wont know.. and no! i will not go to a womens aid and i am sure cassandra dosent want that either.
ive been there 5 years ago and even they have internal politics as to who needs what help etc....i am sorry cassandra for this but it is something no one has the answers for i guess waiting until he has totally calmed and askin why?....

[mztx71]

Servelan, I had financial commitments and kids too and didn't stop me getting out of a bad marriage, but the fact that you are revovering from cancer is all the more reason for you to get out, you need to be properly cared for not smacked around!

[Luke]

Cassandra,
You are not married, and I find it insulting you would make light of such a serious issue.
Stop using one of your many alias's to mock and make silly posts!

Someone on here might actually have this problem and your attempts at fun and drama are not funny.