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Benny JR
03-26-2009, 08:36 PM
I am devastated. He passed away yesterday afternoon. He was undergoing a liver transplant and became infected with Hepatitis B. I only found out last night. I am still in shock over it. I've known him since I was about 4, he was a year older than me. This morning, I had to break the news to one of his old classmates from Primary School and I also told one of my friends, but my other friend didn't know him. It is just such a shock when you loose one of your old pals from school and also a neighbour like that - out of the blue. I only saw him a little while ago, like a few weeks back and now he is gone. I never got a chance to say goodbye and his foster parents (my neighbours) never told anyone about his operation, which in a way I can understand why, but still, it is a shock. My Dad just told me last night, like he blurted it out and I just literally fell apart. He was obviously in shock too. It was like a part of me just shut down. I couldn't think straight. I just froze, then when my Mother came back to our house my Dad went into my neighbours house to see if they were okay. But when I went through the front door of their house and didn't see my friend there, then it really hit me. Hard. All of a sudden, tears just started to stream down my face. I could control myself. I gave his foster Mother a hug and she just held my hand. She was just cold. I don't think it had really hit her yet either, just the shock of it all. I fell apart even more then when I realised that he wasn't coming back. I just rushed right out of my neighbours house. It was just so sudden, he had been in hospital for the last 5 weeks and nobody knew. I'm never gonna see him again. We reconnected last Summer when we had a chance reunion when we were on the same bus going into the city for different reasons. I was meeting with my Sister after work to go see a film and he was going out to his new apartment. He just had his life back on track. His Mother had died in a very bad house fire some years back and he never got to see her because apparently she was too badly burned after the fire, which was very sad. I don't know what to do know. I am still stunned. It is just such a shock to everyone on my Street. No funeral arrangements have been made yet. A part of me just felt lost and still does. It is just such a shock.

Briarwood
03-27-2009, 02:31 AM
This is sad and I can relate.

I lost someone very dear to me two years ago which was a shock.

All I can promise you is that in time it your friend will be a sweet memory who will give you a source of happiness when you think of him

Right now it sucks. and it will suck for a while. But the human condition will help you bury the dead and move on....then you will think fondly of your friend instead of with the grief you feel now.

I hope this helps.

pdlbean
03-27-2009, 02:57 AM
so sorry to hear it. My thoughts and prayers are with you and all your friend's family and friends.

dazzle
03-27-2009, 06:41 AM
what a terrible shock...i also lost a very good friend 4 years ago and 3 years ago my mother died...its at times like that, that life seems so unfair...i want to wish you all of my respect and strenght to get through this

Benny JR
03-27-2009, 12:05 PM
Thanks guys. We still haven't told two of my older Sister's, one of whom is nearly 5 Months pregnant, my Mother think it might be too much of a shock for them. I think we SERIOUSLY need to tell them pretty soon. No funeral arrangements have been made yet, at least we haven't heard anything yet.

Benny JR
03-28-2009, 10:51 AM
There was a wake for my friend last night and his funeral was this morning. I couldn't go, I just couldn't do it. As soon as I saw them moving his coffin from the house next door, I burst into tears. I just couldn't control myself. It was just too much.

i love LL
03-28-2009, 01:54 PM
I am very sorry to hear that! My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Benny JR
03-29-2009, 03:30 PM
Thanks. From what my Parents said (them and one of my older Sisters went to his funeral service) is that it was quite an upbeat service, it was more like his family seemed to be celebrating his life rather than being sad, which I can understand. His foster Dad made a brilliant speech about him and told everyone about all the different schools my friend went to (he was adopted and seemingly shuffled around many different families and homes over the years) and what he was like. My Friend is at peace now though and thank goodness he didn't suffer.